How to Have Sex Like a Movie Star

Having sex like a movie star is amazing. It’s always perfect, always great, and always mind blowing with great orgasms at the end. Many times, there are multiple orgasms and the sex lasts all night. In a word: incredible.

So how can you have sex like a movie star? How can you achieve sexual perfection? It is actually possible, but first you need these things:

  1. A perfect setting. You might try having sex in a five million dollar beach house while the sun sets over the Pacific. Or you could be in a high rise apartment overlooking vast city lights.
  2. Dishes / glasses / furniture that is expensive, but no one cares about. When you are in the middle of having sex like a movie star, if a Ming Dynasty vase crashes to the ground, you won’t care. If you sweep the dishes off the table to make love on it, neither one of you will care about the mess or the need to replace the dishes.
  3. The ability to never tire. Having sex lie a movie star requires that neither one of you ever tires – until the perfect simultaneous orgasm.
  4. Theme music. Very important – this is cool, because it comes on automatically when you start getting hot and heavy.
  5. No distractions, the ability to always be comfortable in any position, no phone calls, perfect lighting, no children’s demands, perfect makeup, endless fluids, perfect hair, no foot cramps, the ability to always be in the perfect position, ultimate flexibility, and the ability to read your partner’s mind.

It is quite simple to have sex like a movie star if you are in a movie with a full staff of people to make sure everything is perfect. The fact is that if you expect sex to be like it is in the movies, you will always be disappointed. But you CAN have fantastic sex – better than movie star sex; because you can learn the techniques to make it great and the sex will be real. But keep it real. Having unrealistic expectations can ruin sex for you and your wife. In fact, having any expectations at all will create an environment of pressure and disappointment which will reduce her libido.

So what is the key to great sex? Relax, go with the flow, and learn some sizzling sex techniques. There is no shame in learning something new – or trying something new. In fact, she will appreciate it more than you know. Why? Because to her, your effort to learn how to please her like no other can or could says you care about her and you love her. That is what is important to her. Truthfully, there are techniques you can use to tantalize turn on your wife so much, she will beg you to be deep inside her; she will crave you like never before; and her sex drive will be off the charts.

Knowledge is power – and in the case of your sex life, knowledge of better techniques and how to treat your wife right will get you more sex. So learn all you can.

Comedy Movies And What They Tell About A Society

Comedy is by far the toughest genre to make across all the film industries; and often, the highest grosser too. If you get it right, you could rake in millions in days; and if you get it wrong, you could fall flat on your face. But that’s not what we are here to discuss. Different film industries make different kinds of comedies. Or let us put it in another way- different kinds of comedy movies become successful in different societies, and that tells you a lot about the society.

We will focus ourselves on two of the big film industries in the world – Bollywood and Hollywood – compare the kinds of comedies that work in either cinema, and what they tell about the society. If you see hit comedy movies in Hollywood over the last decade or so, you will see a major splattering of sex comedies or movies that have a lot of sex humor. Be it the unusual Hangover or the out sex comedy American Pie, or Scary Movies, each one has a major chunk of sex humor. On the other hand, if you see hit comedy movies in Bollywood over the last decade or so, sex humor is conspicuously absent, barring a few exceptions here and there like Kya Kool Hai Hum.

The splattering of sex humor in Hollywood comedies and the near absence of it in Bollywood clearly draws the line between the Asian and the Western culture. While Westerners are more comfortable about discussing their sexuality, Asians are a lot more prude and would much rather discuss sex within the closed doors of the bedroom. But the cynical out there would point out – Hangover was as much a hit in India as it was in the US. Well, that’s not the complete truth. Hangover was a success in India only in Tier I cities, where the audience is more westernized. The distributors of the movie didn’t even feel it worthy enough to release it in Tier II and Tier III cities, simply because there is no audience present for such movies.

When it comes to Bollywood, people would go for slapstick comedy movies like Hera Pheri and Dhamaal or comedies like Munnabhai and 3 Idiots which have a social message hidden in them. A high percentage of Bollywood comedies would rather have toilet humor than sex humor. In fact, on a close comparison, toilet humor is rampant in Bollywood comedy movies and almost absent in Hollywood. Be it Hera Pheri or the most recent Delhi Belly, most Bollywood comedies have toilet humor.

Are You Having “Good Enough” Sex?

In a previous article, “Are You Having Enough Sex?” I wrote about sex through the lens of quantity.  Today, the lens is quality.  Are you having “Good Enough” Sex and what does that even mean?

I’m borrowing the term “good enough sex” from a concept by the renowned psychoanalyst, Donald Winicott, who wrote about the “good enough mother.”  This referred to the idea that a mother didn’t need to be perfect, only attuned well enough to sufficiently meet the child’s needs so that it could grow up and mature into adulthood.  I would suggest that sex can also can be “good enough” in that it will allow the couple to connect, bond and share themselves with each other sufficiently in order to sustain a mature, adult relationship.

Practically speaking, there is a natural variation in sexual encounters with your partner.  They might not always be satisfying.  Sometimes you might feel like the top of your head has exploded.  Sometimes you might feel disappointed, like “is that all there is?”  This is normal and yet many couples hold themselves to superhuman standards of perfection, that each time must be the best time yet.

I’m recommending that you take some of the pressure off of yourself and your partner.  Sometimes “good enough” sex really IS “good enough.”  Some would argue that this is settling.  I don’t agree.  I’m not saying that we shouldn’t also have “Fourth of July Fireworks” sex, I’m only saying that over the course of time in a relationship, we want to have a sexual connection that sustains our bond in a realistic way.

There are many types of sex.  There is “vacation/honeymoon” sex, there is “the kids are at the movies” sex, there is “quickie” sex and “new situation/risky” sex.  There is “married people” sex which begins at 10pm on the dot on Saturday night and consists of five minutes of kissing, ten minutes of foreplay, eight minutes of intercourse, an “I love you” and a snore.  You’ve all experienced different variations and can add many different types of sex as well.

What is important is some consistency and some balance between “quantity” and “quality” in the sexual arena.  The sexual connection between a couple is an incredible opportunity to bond, to share, to become closer in a physical/emotional/spiritual way.  And while the quality of the sexual connection varies from sex act to sex act, it truly is one of the major ingredients in the “glue” that keeps couples connected.  I encourage you all to commit to more consistent sexual contact and to do your best to eliminate your judgments about quality.

That doesn’t mean you don’t want to work to improve the sexual chemistry with your partner.  The research really does indicate that “practice makes perfect.”  So get busy and remember, when your heart is in the right place, it will be “good enough” !

And as always, I welcome your questions, comments and experiences.

Dr. Adam Sheck