Sex in the City Tips!

Since the movie Sex in the City is now showing and proving to be a huge success at the box office, it seems appropriate to offer some surefire real life sex in the city tips and techniques that work amazingly well.

As the movie points out, sex in the city is drastically different than intimate relations in smaller towns. You must possess specific skills to have successful sex, in the city! Here’s how to catch the current exciting wave of sex in the cities:

1. Variety, Variety, Variety!

It is a must to learn as many sexual techniques and tips as possible! Successful city sex relies heavily on variety. Variety will ensure that no matter who you end up meeting, you will be able to please and pleasure them due to your vast knowledge of sex skills.

2. Confidence!

In the city you are guaranteed of one thing: competition. In order to destroy competition, you need confidence. Attracting others will depend on increasing your confidence level. It’s what will make or break successful sex in the city.

Remember, the big advantage to the city is that you can simply go for it! If you strike out, you can literally turn around and hit a home run with someone else. But you have to have confidence!

3. Learn to be a Good Lover Beforehand!

Things move fast in the city, and you want to be able to have your game down immediately, rather than fumbling around and learning the bedroom ropes as you go. The best way to learn sex skills quickly, is by simply reading through a good manual which will outline hundreds of successful ways to become a good lover quickly.

From positioning, to lasting longer, and to the many different techniques for variety, you can learn a lot of necessary knowledge quickly through a good sex skills manual.

Sex Ideas For Couples – Watch an Adult Movie Together

There are many sex ideas for couples that will increase the amount and quality of sex in your life and everyone should be striving for a healthy sex life. Sex with the one you love is one of the most fulfilling experiences and is something that everyone should be enjoying to the fullest.

Learning to enjoy and experience sex to it’s full potential is an ongoing learning process and the key to expanding your sexual horizons is to continually experiment and try new things. Many people find this difficult to do and still have the notion that sex and anything to do with sex is still sort of taboo.

Nothing could be further from the truth and that is why it is imperative to have many different sex ideas for couples. New ideas keep things fresh, exciting and allow couples the ability to grow their own passions about new sexual activities. Whether that be sex toys, new positions, sex games or something as simple as watching an adult movie together.

Settling down with your partner and watching an adult movie is one of the easiest sex ideas for couples to try in the comfort of their own home. Adult films are a great way to get each other sexually aroused and are a perfect way to explore your sexual fantasies and deepest sexual desires.

If you have never watch an adult film with your partner then you should definitely consider buying/renting a feature adult movie. A feature adult movie is essentially a movie with a plot and sex. Do not set your expectations too high and think you are going to be watching the next Academy Award winner. The plot quality in these adult movies varies greatly. With that being said there are some fantastic adult movies that are better than those on the big screen but there are others that will leave you scratching your head.

Whatever the case may be, watching a feature adult movie with your significant other is one of the great sex ideas for couples that will open the door to a whole new world of sexual possibilities.

Are You Having “Good Enough” Sex?

In a previous article, “Are You Having Enough Sex?” I wrote about sex through the lens of quantity.  Today, the lens is quality.  Are you having “Good Enough” Sex and what does that even mean?

I’m borrowing the term “good enough sex” from a concept by the renowned psychoanalyst, Donald Winicott, who wrote about the “good enough mother.”  This referred to the idea that a mother didn’t need to be perfect, only attuned well enough to sufficiently meet the child’s needs so that it could grow up and mature into adulthood.  I would suggest that sex can also can be “good enough” in that it will allow the couple to connect, bond and share themselves with each other sufficiently in order to sustain a mature, adult relationship.

Practically speaking, there is a natural variation in sexual encounters with your partner.  They might not always be satisfying.  Sometimes you might feel like the top of your head has exploded.  Sometimes you might feel disappointed, like “is that all there is?”  This is normal and yet many couples hold themselves to superhuman standards of perfection, that each time must be the best time yet.

I’m recommending that you take some of the pressure off of yourself and your partner.  Sometimes “good enough” sex really IS “good enough.”  Some would argue that this is settling.  I don’t agree.  I’m not saying that we shouldn’t also have “Fourth of July Fireworks” sex, I’m only saying that over the course of time in a relationship, we want to have a sexual connection that sustains our bond in a realistic way.

There are many types of sex.  There is “vacation/honeymoon” sex, there is “the kids are at the movies” sex, there is “quickie” sex and “new situation/risky” sex.  There is “married people” sex which begins at 10pm on the dot on Saturday night and consists of five minutes of kissing, ten minutes of foreplay, eight minutes of intercourse, an “I love you” and a snore.  You’ve all experienced different variations and can add many different types of sex as well.

What is important is some consistency and some balance between “quantity” and “quality” in the sexual arena.  The sexual connection between a couple is an incredible opportunity to bond, to share, to become closer in a physical/emotional/spiritual way.  And while the quality of the sexual connection varies from sex act to sex act, it truly is one of the major ingredients in the “glue” that keeps couples connected.  I encourage you all to commit to more consistent sexual contact and to do your best to eliminate your judgments about quality.

That doesn’t mean you don’t want to work to improve the sexual chemistry with your partner.  The research really does indicate that “practice makes perfect.”  So get busy and remember, when your heart is in the right place, it will be “good enough” !

And as always, I welcome your questions, comments and experiences.

Dr. Adam Sheck