Review – Sex and the City – The Movie

A top rated television series is just that. Top rated and not anything can take away from that fact.
However, trying to reinvent the same series on the big screen does not work as well. In the first place, the television series was just one-half hour long that was divided into a full hour time slot. The movie was over two hours long and other than a few spots of real life drama, it came across as a visual cream puff.

Of course, the fashions were breathtaking and so were the views from a Manhattan penthouse and the honeymoon villa on the coast of Mexico. As usual, there was the roller coaster romance between Karrie and Mr. Big, along with the mother-figure character Miranda warning Kerrie to be careful not to fall into his trap once again. The biggest surprise was the character of Samantha. She had really mellowed out from the bed-romping PR woman from New York City. However, Charlotte was in her usual form still living with Harry and her adopted Chinese daughter. Other than a few scenes, he mostly stayed in the background. The character of Steve comes across as even better than in the television series. He was given a lot more depth to work with in having to live with his high-powered wife, Miranda.

If the movie “Sex And The City” did one thing, it bonded women over the age of eighteen and at least gave them the idea that you can have anything you want as long as you are willing to pay a high price for it.

Comedy Movies And What They Tell About A Society

Comedy is by far the toughest genre to make across all the film industries; and often, the highest grosser too. If you get it right, you could rake in millions in days; and if you get it wrong, you could fall flat on your face. But that’s not what we are here to discuss. Different film industries make different kinds of comedies. Or let us put it in another way- different kinds of comedy movies become successful in different societies, and that tells you a lot about the society.

We will focus ourselves on two of the big film industries in the world – Bollywood and Hollywood – compare the kinds of comedies that work in either cinema, and what they tell about the society. If you see hit comedy movies in Hollywood over the last decade or so, you will see a major splattering of sex comedies or movies that have a lot of sex humor. Be it the unusual Hangover or the out sex comedy American Pie, or Scary Movies, each one has a major chunk of sex humor. On the other hand, if you see hit comedy movies in Bollywood over the last decade or so, sex humor is conspicuously absent, barring a few exceptions here and there like Kya Kool Hai Hum.

The splattering of sex humor in Hollywood comedies and the near absence of it in Bollywood clearly draws the line between the Asian and the Western culture. While Westerners are more comfortable about discussing their sexuality, Asians are a lot more prude and would much rather discuss sex within the closed doors of the bedroom. But the cynical out there would point out – Hangover was as much a hit in India as it was in the US. Well, that’s not the complete truth. Hangover was a success in India only in Tier I cities, where the audience is more westernized. The distributors of the movie didn’t even feel it worthy enough to release it in Tier II and Tier III cities, simply because there is no audience present for such movies.

When it comes to Bollywood, people would go for slapstick comedy movies like Hera Pheri and Dhamaal or comedies like Munnabhai and 3 Idiots which have a social message hidden in them. A high percentage of Bollywood comedies would rather have toilet humor than sex humor. In fact, on a close comparison, toilet humor is rampant in Bollywood comedy movies and almost absent in Hollywood. Be it Hera Pheri or the most recent Delhi Belly, most Bollywood comedies have toilet humor.

Great Sex is Like a Great Movie

A quick search tells me about 600 movies are released in US theatres each year. Now have a quick think and work out how many of those movies you actually watched. Then have another think and decide what ones you thought were actually great movies.

Now, putting aside personal preferences, there are some movies that capture the imagination of millions of people. Sometimes these are the movies that attract a lot of buzz like the latest Indiana Jones movie… but that doesn’t guarantee people will love it.

If you look at the various lists of top movies, I find there’s one common thread that runs through them. They took the audience on an emotional journey.

Think about your favourite movies… what emotions do you feel? Do you fall in love with the characters? Or do you hate them? Do the movies scare you? Or do they make you laugh? All great movies cause an emotional reaction in the viewer.

And the same is true for great sex. Sure, you can have sex 600 times a year, but if there’s no emotion it’ll never be great sex. If you think back to your most memorable sexual experiences you can see how emotion played a strong role.

Maybe you hadn’t seen your lover for a while or it was someone you had to chase for a long time. It could be that you just felt a lot of passion for that person or perhaps it was “forbidden” love. External events might have played a part and raised the emotion of the situation as well.

Emotion is what makes the difference between good sex and great sex. Sure, you can love someone and have good sex with them on a regular basis, but with a bit of a kick start you can turn this into great sex.

To do this you might try:

  • Having a special romantic evening
  • Teasing your lover
  • Having sex somewhere “naughty”
  • Abstaining… for a while
  • Playing out fantasies
  • Trying something “forbidden”
  • Creating anticipation in advance

There are many ways to heighten emotions during sex and I recommend you try everything you can think of. A little bit of thought is all it takes to take good sex and make it great sex… and who doesn’t want that?